Hell fucking no.
There is a whole lot I can say about porn right now, but there are a lot of people who would say it better than me. I have nothing against porn where everyone is 2257 Compliant (and I mean everyone, even the anti-porn crowd blowhards who think they are making “fair and unbiased documentaries”) and completely willing, as in doing the work because they want to, and not because they have no other options. There is a lot of nuance there that is ignored in my statement, like the lack of options to women that would lead them to make that choice…but that is not the conversation I am wanting to have here. This is not a porn debate.
Instead, let’s talk about that phrase.
I have never been raped. I shared one time at Cara’s place a story about being inappropriately touched by a family member once, something I have never really told anyone before, but I can not attest to the pain and trauma of being raped. I can not personally imagine how horrifying that must be to endure and to heal from, if such a thing is ever truly possible.
But I can say that were I to ask someone I know who has been raped they would probably not say “It was an awful lot like voluntarily watching a sex video or looking at a nudie magazine”. I intensely detest the flippant use of the word rape to describe anything that someone find arbitrarily unpleasant, like getting pwned in a video game or having to pay taxes. It is already incredibly difficult to get many courts to take it seriously, or to even get news media to use the word appropriately, and the casual use of rape to describe an unpleasant experience doesn’t do anything to help the cause.
I would have to say that the only thing that can be compared to rape is…rape.