Let’s hear it for The Guy’s home state!
B/c this is great news!
I hope for a day when I can stop counting this as great news. I hope for a day when it is no different to think that my friends in same sex relationships can enjoy the privilege of marriage if they want it (I also hope for a day when it doesn’t fucking matter if you are married or not, but one thing at a time).
The other night at dinner, The Guy told me that The Kid told him something interesting on the way home from the bus.
The Guy: [The Kid] told me she does want to get married some day, didn’t you kid?
The Kid: Yeah! Only, I want to marry a girl.
Me: Really? Good for you.
The Kid: Yeah, I think I would rather marry a girl than a boy.
Me: Well, hopefully someday you will be free to do that if that is still what you want.
The Kid: What do you mean?
Me: Well, some people think that if you are a girl you should only marry a boy, and vice versa.
The Kid: But that’s not fair! What if a girl loves a girl?
Me: I agree. Hopefully by the time you are an adult people will understand that love is love, and it doesn’t matter what kind of private parts you have.
The Kid: I hope so too. Because I think I want to marry a girl.
We don’t put a lot of emphasis on types of sexuality or gender, so really we discuss love as a fluid thing, b/t two people rather than b/t two genders or sexes. As far as I can tell, Kid sees no reason why she should not be able to marry anyone she wants, be it a boy or a girl (man or woman, but this is how she identifies things right now). To her, the person you love is the person you love. She also wants to marry a girl b/c she wants to have lots of babies, but she knows that having a baby hurts, and wants to take turns doing so. Last year she just wanted to adopt instead, b/c she was afraid it would hurt too much. She is still up in the air on that one. I just tell her that she has a lot of years to think about it and decide.
I couldn’t be more proud of her some days.
And some day, if she does decide to marry a girl, I fully support that. I just hope that the rest of the world will be able to do the same, for her sake.
h/t to Cara, via Twitter.