And personal attacks.
This has been a heated primary season, that is for damned sure. It is also becoming a highly tense (becoming?) election season. Friendships and alliances have shattered during this last year plus, and it is sad and horrible to watch go down.
Something that is not helping this in any way shape or form is the constant fucking shaming that is going on, especially in the feminist/womanist blogosphere over voting.
Guilt and fear, while two incredibly motivating emotions have no place being used to brow beat one another over how best to use your vote. You can scream at me all day about how a vote for a third party will mean a sure landslide for McCain, or how Obama is the devil and McCain would actually be the lesser of two evils (neither argument I am willing to buy), or throw “Nader Nader Nader” in my face and it will do exactly nothing but piss me off. It will do nothing to fix the current clusterfuck of a situation we are in here in the Ol’ US of A. It does not one Sky Bully forsaken thing to fix the wank fodder of economic disparity or stop another bomb from falling.
All it does is make us want to piss in our own sand boxes. As Rachel said at Tilting windmills (something I know she amended later, but still applies), and as I have mentioned a few times before, kicking ourselves in the shins is only helping the actual Big Bad to win.
Additionally, using horrible and offensive words and calling someone “stupid” “insane” “spineless” or “delusional” b/c of the choice s/he is making w/ their vote is completely against everything I have come to love and respect about the feminist/womanist movement.
I also agree w/ Rachel’s amended statement that disagreement among us keeps us focused on what the goal is and challenges us to see things differently, but I am going to add to that thought.
Being hurtful and shameful in the name of trying to bully someone to see your point is doing nothing to further your cause. It doesn’t show your side (which could be full of great points), but it sure as hell makes you look like a jerk.
If we want to believe and have the rest of the world see that women are complex creatures, capable of considering and evaluating complex situations and weighing all factors that go into making a decision then we had best start fucking acting like it.
Shaming someone and using hateful, personal attacks (that are ablist at worst, just plain mean at best) b/c of how they choose to cast their vote on November 4th is not a feminist/womanist value.
I don’t think anyone who has been half awake during this election period can pretend to not be aware of how fucking significant this election is for us. We are all aware of what is at stake, and most of us are doing our damnedest to make the best decision we can. In the end, yes, we all have to deal w/ what happens in November, but it is still our vote. Each and every one of us as registered voters have a vote, and no one can tell you (or shame you into) how to use it. That choice is yours.
And I trust that all of you are reasonable minded people who can weigh and consider the best way to cast it. It’s not selfish, it’s your democratic fucking privilege.
And we don’t need guilt and fear from shamers to help us make it.